Winter brings something we all dread…Cabin fever. The kids are full of pent up energy and have nowhere to run it all off. It’s cold, damp, and raining most days, so the kids just stay in. They bicker and quarrel, they sit around and do nothing and as a mom, I shake my head and wonder what I did do to create these monsters. As I sat in my bed one early morning, talking to my half asleep husband, I searched my heart to no end. How could my children be so nasty to each other? So contentious? And my home so full of chaos? The laziness creeps it’s ugly presence around each bend of the home. Nothing seemed to be getting done. Winter brings the cold, and cold for me translates into pain. The less I do, maybe is an example to them to do less. Everyone is eating, slouching across the furniture, when an occasional wrestling match breaks out, and it seems like pulling teeth to require any work out of them.
As we moved forward that morning, our weary bodies made the grand exodus from our bed and the warmth of our slumber, we found our owners manual for parenting-The Bible! God is faithful to give wisdom in times of need and His word is full of verses that pertain to work ethic…
And whatsoever ye do, do [it] heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Colossians 3:23
For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if
any would not work, neither should he eat.
2 Thessalonians 3:10
In all labour there is profit: but the talk of the lips [tendeth] only to penury.
He that tilleth his land shall be satisfied with bread:
but he that followeth vain [persons is] void of understanding.
He becometh poor that dealeth [with] a slack hand:
but the hand of the diligent maketh rich.
I have learned in life that everything is doable if there is a system in place. All of a sudden, like a flash of light bursting out of a black cloud, and idea came to me. MOM BUCKS! It became the new currency in our home –paper play money (we started with Monopoly money until it all wore out). This is how it works:
Think of all the things you need done around the home and put a value on each job.
Next, you must come up with the value of privileges.
This system has brought such productivity, order, and peace into our home. They learn good work ethic, how to save money, and how to spend it wisely. One day Miles decided to take it easy. He is prone to laziness so we have to keep reminding him to stay busy or we will find something for him to do. I just let him loaf. When it came time for movie night, Miles did not have enough for admission to the show. I told him that the movie starts in 30 minutes so he better get busy earning some mom bucks. That put a fire under my boy. He wanted to watch the movie so he fixed his eyes on that prize and found some jobs to complete in time for the movie. The kids feel good about getting work done, negative behavior and quarreling is cutting back each day, and my house is always clean. They run around looking for things to do to make a quick buck rather than just sitting around picking at each other and driving me crazy. When I do their homeschooling, I charge them $1 Mom Buck for each time they goof around. I am getting great results and everyone seems happier.
With the Mom Buck system, you can tell what kid is the most ambitious, who saves up, and which one will be the wasteful spender. The girls started making up snacks like popcorn, cookies, homemade crackers, and chocolate milk to offer in the snack shack. They enjoy having things to save up for. The boys are into air soft bb guns, so Mark buys the bullets in bulk. They can buy the plastic bbs from their dad.I made a pdf with my Mom Bucks for you to download for FREE! I recommend using heavy white card stock to print on. It takes about 20 sheets to have enough for the game. You just print them off and cut the money out. I hope this helps and brings more order in your home.